More Tips On Confidence Building For Kids

Since it is so crucial that kids grow up believing in3) One of the easiest way is to hang up their
themselves, I have more tips for you.pictures on the wall so that visitors can take a look
1) Do not criticize. Criticism can greatly diminishat them too. Encourage them to take about the
confidence. It is easy for parents to say "See, I toldstory or idea behind the picture. If your kids are
you not to do that and now you are dirty all over."older, you could embark on a project to write a
We need to remind ourselves constantly thatstorybook. The child could write on a short chapter a
everytime we diminish their self-esteem, it will takeweek. They can also hang up short articles or jokes
us a lot more effort to restore it. Or even worse,on the wall.
we leave it as it is and the child will hesitate to do4) Communicate with your child as much as possible.
new things in future. If you have nothing good toYou will need to know what they are feeling and
say, it is better not to say anything. Talk to childrenthinking before you can decide on the next course of
about their mistake in a positive way.action. Most parents spend time and money attending
2) What is your first reaction when you see yourcourses to find out about how to deal with their
child in your room full of lipstick on his lips and all yourchildren when the most important thing they need to
lipsticks are spoilt? Will you start screaming at him?do is to spend more time with them.
Most of us would. Then you would have fallen into5) Help children to find their own interest and build on
their trap. What should you do then? Make themit. Try not to emphasize on perfection and
clean up the mess, even if it takes half the day. Thecompetition. Instead focus on doing their best and
child have to pay for the lipsticks by either notenjoying the process. The process is just as
having a new toy or no Macdonalds for the next twoimportant ,if not more important than the result.
months. Screaming at them does not really help asChildren will realize that there are so many things to
they already feel frightened when they know youlearn on the way which are so valuable to them.
have found out the truth. Let them learn that theyCheng Cheng is a parenting expert with two boys
have to be responsible for what they do. If they canage 5 and 6. She has learnt a lot from books and
come up with their own punishment (which you areother mothers. She hopes to share her experiences
agreeable to), that would be better.and knowledge which will definitely be useful to you.