| So how do you stay calm, composed and | | | | end product of your inherited traits |
| maintain self esteem in a tough environment? | | | | (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and |
| Here are some tips you may to consider as a | | | | your environmental surroundings such as your |
| starter guide to self improvement. | | | | spouse, the company, the economy or your |
| | | | circle of friends. You have your own |
| Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything | | | | identity. If your father is a failure, it |
| and everyone else around you may become Dart | | | | does not mean you have to be a failure too. |
| Pins, at one point or another. These points | | | | Learn from other people's experience, so you |
| will destroy your self esteem and pull you | | | | will never have to encounter the same |
| down in ways you will not even remember. Do | | | | mistakes. |
| not let them destroy you, or get the best of | | | | |
| you. So which points should you avoid?a) | | | | Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some |
| Negative Work Environment, beware of "dog eat | | | | people are born leaders or positive thinkers. |
| dog" theory where everyone else is fighting | | | | NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a |
| just to get ahead. This is where | | | | choice. Building self esteem and drawing |
| non-appreciative people usually thrive. No | | | | lines for self improvement is a choice, not a |
| one will appreciate your contributions even | | | | rule or a talent. God would not come down |
| if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up | | | | from heaven and tell you, "George, you may |
| late. Most of the time you get to work too | | | | now have the permission to build self esteem |
| much without getting help from people | | | | and improve your self." |
| concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin | | | | |
| your self esteem. Competition is at stake | | | | In life, it is hard to stay tough specially |
| anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but | | | | when things and people around you keep |
| in a healthy competition that is.b) Other | | | | pulling you down. When we get to the battle |
| People's Behavior, bulldozers, brown nosers, | | | | field, we should choose the right luggage to |
| gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, | | | | bring and armors to use, and pick those that |
| snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, | | | | are bullet proof. Life's options give us |
| naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, | | | | arrays of more options. Along the battle, we |
| sluffers... all these kinds of people will | | | | will get hit and bruised. And wearing a |
| pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well | | | | bullet proof armor ideally means 'self |
| as to your self improvement scheme.c) | | | | change'. The kind of change which comes from |
| Changing Environment, you cannot be a green | | | | within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change |
| bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our | | | | changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior |
| paradigms. It tests our flexibility, | | | | and our way of thinking. |
| adaptability and alters the way we think. | | | | |
| Changes will make life difficult for awhile, | | | | Building self esteem will eventually lead to |
| it may cause stress but it will help us find | | | | self improvement if we start to become |
| ways to improve our selves. Change will be | | | | responsible for who we are, what we have and |
| there forever, we must be susceptible to | | | | what we do. It is like a flame that should |
| it.d) Past Experience, it is okay to cry and | | | | gradually spread like a brush fire from |
| say "ouch!" when we experience pain. But do | | | | inside and out. When we develop self esteem, |
| not let pain transform itself into fear. It | | | | we take control of our mission, values and |
| might grab you by the tail and swing you | | | | discipline. Self esteem brings about self |
| around. Treat each failure and mistake as a | | | | improvement, true assessment, and |
| lesson.e) Negative World View, look at what | | | | determination. So how do you start putting up |
| you are looking at. Do not wrap yourself up | | | | the building blocks of self esteem? Be |
| with all the negativities of the world. In | | | | positive. Be contented and happy. Be |
| building self esteem, we must learn how to | | | | appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to |
| make the best out of worst situations.f) | | | | compliment. A positive way of living will |
| Determination Theory, the way you are and | | | | help you build self esteem, your starter |
| your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed | | | | guide to self improvement. |