| So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain | | | | and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end |
| self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some | | | | product of your inherited traits (genetics), your |
| tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self | | | | upbringing (psychic), and your environmental |
| improvement. | | | | surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the |
| Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and | | | | economy or your circle of friends. You have your |
| everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at | | | | own identity. If your father is a failure, it does not |
| one point or another. These points will destroy your | | | | mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other |
| self esteem and pull you down in ways you will not | | | | people's experience, so you will never have to |
| even remember. Do not let them destroy you, or | | | | encounter the same mistakes. |
| get the best of you. So which points should you | | | | Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some |
| avoid?a) Negative Work Environment, beware of | | | | people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being |
| "dog eat dog" theory where everyone else is fighting | | | | positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self |
| just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative | | | | esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a |
| people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your | | | | choice, not a rule or a talent. God would not come |
| contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and | | | | down from heaven and tell you, "George, you may |
| stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too | | | | now have the permission to build self esteem and |
| much without getting help from people concerned. | | | | improve your self." |
| Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. | | | | In life, it is hard to stay tough specially when things |
| Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough | | | | and people around you keep pulling you down. When |
| to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.b) | | | | we get to the battle field, we should choose the |
| Other People's Behavior, bulldozers, brown nosers, | | | | right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick |
| gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, | | | | those that are bullet proof. Life's options give us |
| people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, | | | | arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get |
| complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers... all these | | | | hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor |
| kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self | | | | ideally means 'self change'. The kind of change which |
| esteem, as well as to your self improvement | | | | comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change |
| scheme.c) Changing Environment, you cannot be a | | | | changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our |
| green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our | | | | way of thinking. |
| paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and | | | | Building self esteem will eventually lead to self |
| alters the way we think. Changes will make life | | | | improvement if we start to become responsible for |
| difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help | | | | who we are, what we have and what we do. It is |
| us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be | | | | like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush |
| there forever, we must be susceptible to it.d) Past | | | | fire from inside and out. When we develop self |
| Experience, it is okay to cry and say "ouch!" when | | | | esteem, we take control of our mission, values and |
| we experience pain. But do not let pain transform | | | | discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, |
| itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and | | | | true assessment, and determination. So how do you |
| swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as | | | | start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? |
| a lesson.e) Negative World View, look at what you | | | | Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. |
| are looking at. Do not wrap yourself up with all the | | | | Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive |
| negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we | | | | way of living will help you build self esteem, your |
| must learn how to make the best out of worst | | | | starter guide to self improvement. |
| situations.f) Determination Theory, the way you are | | | | |