| Are you looking for self esteem help? Before you go | | | | yourself more like you are a valuable human being |
| around seeking such help, you should be aware of | | | | who has intrinsic self worth, than someone who |
| the difference between normal self esteem and low | | | | should be treated like garbage. Developing better self |
| self esteem. Everyone goes through periods in their | | | | esteem starts with this because if you do not treat |
| daily life when they experience feeling the blues | | | | yourself like a valuable person, even positive input |
| which may then be replaced by a high - all in the | | | | from other people will only have a temporary effect. |
| same day. But people who have normal self esteem | | | | Once you forget the positive input you received, |
| are able to cope with these fluctuations without | | | | your feelings of poor self worth will kick in again and |
| getting really, really down. | | | | your day will be ruined. |
| On the other hand, a person with poor self esteem is | | | | 3. Try to take better care of yourself physically. Get |
| easily brought low by anything that happens during | | | | enough sleep at night (this may vary from person to |
| his day - a dirty look from a restaurant waittress, | | | | person.) Consume proper nutrition and watch your |
| criticism from a superior, not picking a winning lottery | | | | diet. Exercise right. Observe proper hygiene. You may |
| number. | | | | be surprised but a person with low self esteem can |
| If you feel you are a person with poor self esteem, | | | | usually be discerned by how they let themselves go |
| then you could do with some self esteem help. A | | | | physically. They may appear bedraggled and grubby, |
| person with low self esteem generally depends on | | | | with clothes that have not been washed, hair that |
| external factors to boost their self esteem - things | | | | has not been combed, and teeth that badly need |
| like grades in school, performance evaluations at the | | | | brushing. The physical appearance is usually the first |
| office, and following the latest hairstyles are all things | | | | to suffer. |
| that type of person needs to feel better about | | | | 4. When you are able to accomplish something |
| himself. This is because without such positive external | | | | significant, do something nice for yourself. This may |
| reinforcement, the person listens to his feelings of | | | | mean getting a much-needed massage, or a relaxing |
| poor self worth instead. | | | | pedicure. You could go shopping for neat clothes at |
| A person with low self esteem can rely on these | | | | your local mall, or you might just want an ice cream |
| steps to improve his feelings of self worth: | | | | cone or slice of cake to savor your success. The |
| 1. Contradict your inner critic. The inner critic is the | | | | point is to prove to yourself that you deserve to |
| internal voice that gives unfairly harsh assessments | | | | enjoy your success too. |
| of the individual. It provides unrealistic generalizations | | | | 5. Learn to be forgiving to yourself. Many people with |
| that the person has to live up to. This inner critic is | | | | self esteem issues beat themselves up mentally and |
| known to be illogical at times, making it seem that | | | | psychologically over even the smallest mistake. Such |
| the circumstances of the person are worse than | | | | people tell themselves: I am so dumb! That was the |
| they really are. | | | | stupidest thing I could ever have done! I will never be |
| You contradict your inner critic by offering alternative | | | | able to get it right! A person with normal self esteem |
| and more positive ways of examining the situation. | | | | can discern between an honest mistake and habitual |
| This may take practice but do not worry - in time, | | | | mistakes. |
| you will learn to adopt a more positive mind set | | | | If these tips fail to eliminate your feelings of poor |
| through a daily routine of contradicting that inner | | | | self esteem, you might want to consult a counselor |
| voice. | | | | or psychologist instead for higher quality of self |
| 2. Be more self-nurturing. This means treating | | | | esteem help. |